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Monday, February 28, 2011

A New Beginning - Cycle #34

Ever since we found out we were not pregnant, I have been very sad. I told myself I would only be sad for one day; however, it has been hard to get over not being pregnant this time around. I have never been a person who gets upset at the end of the month because they are not pregnant. I told myself, if it does not happen we will try again. The further we go with these treatments the harder it is not to be sad and overwhelmed. Plus the hormone medications do not help either, it makes me more emotional.

We went to church Saturday night and afterwards we asked Father Anthony if he would pray over us again. Of course Father Anthony said yes; however, he had to perform a christening. Father Anthony said it would be good for us to sit through the christening and watch the blessing of this child. I agree it is truly a blessing to see parents dedicated their child to the Lord.

The funny thing is that we knew the parents really well, so it was nice to see their baby christened. I went to school with the baby’s father. We sat a few rows backs and watch everyone gather round the altar to watch the christening. It was a very beautiful christening and I am glad we had to chance to watch from a far.

Afterwards, Father Anthony brought us to the altar and we all prayed under the crucifix of Jesus. Then Father Anthony anointed our hands with oil. Mark and I, held hands while Father Anthony placed his hands on top. Then Father Anthony prayed blessings over our marriage and prayed Hannah’s prayer. Finally Father Anthony prayed “In the words of Eli the priest, Go in peace, and may God grant you what you have asked of him.” 1 Samuel 1:17

The whole time during the prayer I cried. I wanted to cry during church, but I held it in the whole time. After the prayer, I felt a peace come over me. I felt God telling me it will be okay and that he was comforting me. Since then, I have not felt sad and the peace has stayed with me. We are so thankful to have wonderful priests (Father Anthony, Father Ed and Father Will), family, and friends who love and care about us. I do not think we could get through this without all their support and the love of God.

Tomorrow I go back to see Dr. Rister and hopefully he will have good news. At this time we will talk about our next steps and what treatment plan is right for me. I know God’s hands are guiding us through this, and he will provide Dr. Rister the knowledge he needs to treat us.

Friday, February 25, 2011

End of Cycle #33

Yesterday afternoon I knew it was over for this cycle because I began to spot. This morning my temperature dropped below my cover line. I was very sad yesterday and I cried a lot. Mark was very concern and suggested we quit moving forward. Mark’s fear is that I am going become depressed. I told him I allow myself to be sad for one day and that is it. I told Mark, “Have you not learned by now that I am not a quitter? I am a fighter!” He laughed and said, “Yes, I know you are a fighter.” All my life I had to fight for myself and infertility is not different. I will overcome infertility one way or another, even if that means we go through adoption.

Today is a new beginning, a new start in our journey. I am over my sadness and ready to move on to the next phase. After 8:00 am, I am going to call Dr. Rister’s office to schedule another appointment. I will probably see him on Monday or Tuesday and will start Clomid on Tuesday (If everything looks okay). I started to number my cycles, just for the sake of organization.

The cycle numbers come from my software system I use to track all my information. Yes, we have basically been trying to conceive for 33 cycles. I started tracking my information shortly after we were married and we officially started TTC (trying to conceive) a few months after we were married.

The following lyrics are from Natalie Grant’s song Held, and the lyrics offer comfort during times like these. Also, this song reminds me of my brother who passed away 12 years ago. I know in times of sorrow and sadness God is carrying us through our pain.

Two months is too little
They let him go
They had no sudden healing
To think that providence
Would take a child from his mother
While she prays, is appalling
Who told us we'd be rescued
What has changed and
Why should we be saved from nightmares
Were asking why this happens to us
Who have died to live, it's unfair

This is what it means to be held
How it feels, when the sacred is torn from your life
And you survive
This is what it is to be loved and to know
That the promise was that when everything fell
We'd be held

This hand is bitterness
We want to taste it and
Let the hatred numb our sorrows
The wise hand opens slowly
To lilies of the valley and tomorrow
This is what it means to be held

How it feels, when the sacred is torn from your life
And you survive
This is what it is to be loved and to know
That the promise was that when everything fell
We'd be held

If hope if born of suffering
If this is only the beginning
Can we not wait, for one hour
Watching for our savior
This is what it means to be held

How it feels, when the sacred is torn from your life
And you survive
This is what it is to be loved and to know
That the promise was that when everything fell
We'd be held

Thursday, February 24, 2011

12 Days Past Ovulation

Well, my temperature dropped again today and it is right above the cover line. I am probably not pregnant, but I am still hoping. On the bright side, I made it to the 12th day past ovulation. Before Prometrium, my average length past ovulation was 10 days. The time after ovulation is called the Luteal Phase (LP) and should last between 12 to 14 to sustain a pregnancy. Since my LP was not lasting past 10 days, I was not able to sustain a pregnancy and this is why I am taking Prometrium. For now, I am still waiting to see what happens. If I am not pregnant, then early next week, I will go see Dr. Rister again to start back on Clomid.

Quote of the Day:

That which does not kill us, makes us stronger


Picture: This is me in Las Vegas


Wednesday, February 23, 2011

11 Days Past Ovulation

Today is about the same as yesterday. My temperature dropped another degree; however, that is not a bad sign. My temperature is above the cover line, which is a good thing. Last night I did not have any heartburn, thank goodness. I still feel very tired and nauseas from the Prometrium. I just keeping praying and expecting God to perform a miracle in our life.  

Quote of the Day:

I found this quote on another blog: http://fertileramblings.blogspot.com/2008/11/quotes-for-strength.html

“Thoughts on Becoming a Mother: There are women that become mothers without effort, without thought, without patience or loss and though they are good mothers and love their children, I know that I will be better. I will be better not because of genetics, or money or that I have read more books but because I have struggled and toiled for this child. I have longed and waited. I have cried and prayed. I have endured and planned over and over again. Like most things in life, the people who truly have appreciation are those who have struggled to attain their dreams.

I will notice everything about my child. I will take time to watch my child sleep, explore and discover. I will marvel at this miracle every day for the rest of my life. I will be happy when I wake in the middle of the night to the sound of my child, knowing that I can comfort, hold and feed him and that I am not waking to take another temperature, pop another pill, take another shot or cry tears of a broken dream.

My dream will be crying for me. I count myself lucky in this sense; that God has given me this insight, this special vision with which I will look upon my child that my friends will not see. Whether I parent a child that I actually give birth to, or a child that God leads me to, I will not be careless with my love. I will be a better mother for all that I have endured.

I am a better wife, a better aunt, a better daughter, neighbor, friend and sister because I have known pain. I know disillusionment as I have been betrayed by my own body. I have been tried by fire and hell many never face, yet given time, I stood tall. I have prevailed. I have succeeded. I have won. So now, when others hurt around me, I do not run from their pain in order to save myself discomfort. I see it, mourn it, and join them in theirs. I listen. And even though I cannot make it better, I can make it less lonely.

I have learned the immense power of another hand holding tight to mine, of other eyes that moisten as they learn to accept the harsh truth and when life is beyond hard. I have learned a compassion that only comes with walking in those shoes. I have learned to appreciate life. Yes I will be a wonderful mother.”


Tuesday, February 22, 2011

10 Days Past Ovulation

I realized today that I have two more side effects from the Prometrium, heartburn and drowsiness. Last night I was so tired when I got off work, that all I wanted to do was go to sleep. Then I woke up in the middle of the night with heartburn, I rarely have heartburn. I also been craving comfort foods, which is not good because I am trying to eat healthily.  My temperature dropped a degree this morning, but that is not a big deal. My temperature is still high and above the cover line. Currently we are still waiting to see if I am pregnant or not, we will know by Friday.

I found the following article on Joyce Meyer’s website and I found it very helpful during the 2ww (two week wait). I am waiting hopefully that God will suddenly change our situation. I know we are on God’s time and I am trying to be patient. Through this whole process we are seeking his guidance. God has given me peace that we will have a baby; however, it will be his timing and not ours. I am glad we are waiting on God, because if we had not waited, then other things in my life would be different. I try to remind myself that God has a plan for me and I am eagerly waiting for that plan to unfold.


What to Do When You’re Waiting on God
by Joyce Meyer

Have you been praying about a situation in your life and found yourself waiting for a breakthrough? Are you wondering why the answer hasn't come yet? Do you feel as though victory is passing you by?

Sometimes when we pray long and hard about a situation in our life without receiving any answers, we just learn to live with it. We go on about our business, wondering if or when God will send the answer. But God does hear those prayers, and He’s working out the answers even though we may not know all the details. Our situation can change suddenly—quickly without warning!

But one thing is certain: Before God moves suddenly, we will wait. Waiting for answers is a fact of life—nobody gets out of it. So the question is not if we'll wait, but rather how we’ll wait. And I believe how will determine how long.

Two Ways to Wait


Acts 16 tells the story of how they were attacked by a crowd, beaten and thrown in jail. Verse 24 says the jailer...put them into the inner prison (the dungeon) and fastened their feet in the stocks. He was making sure they couldn't escape. But about midnight, God showed up. Now it would have been nice if He'd come a little earlier, but Paul and Silas didn’t seem to mind—they just decided to start singing and began to worship the Lord. They began to wait on God. Verses 25 & 26 say, But about midnight, as Paul and Silas were praying and singing hymns of praise to God, and the [other] prisoners were listening to them, suddenly there was a great earthquake, so that the very foundations of the prison were shaken; and at once all the doors were opened and everyone's shackles were unfastened. God answered them suddenly!

When people patiently and expectantly wait on God in the midst of horrible circumstances, suddenly God breaks through. So don't give up! Don’t stop believing! Stay full of hope and expectation. God's power is limitless, and He'll break through for you.


Once we've asked God to answer a question or solve a problem, we need to be eagerly awaiting His answer. We need to be serving actively, aggressively and expectantly. When our hearts are eager to hear from God, He loves to rush in suddenly with His solution. In many cases this waiting period actually serves as a time of preparation for the answer. If God answered right away, many of us would be ill-prepared to handle His solution.

Sometimes we find ourselves in such horrible messes that it's hard to imagine waiting one more second. But we need to keep waiting on God and trusting Him with a sweet and simple faith. Then, in a way we never could've figured out—God moves suddenly!

Then All of a Sudden...

In the Bible Paul and Silas knew about waiting, and they waited well.
It’s just like when a woman is pregnant; it's said that she is expecting a baby. She carries inside her the promise of a baby, and even though she can’t see it, she knows it's there. The moment she learns of her pregnancy, she begins to plan for her baby's arrival. She starts collecting items she'll need and busily gets the nursery ready. She actively prepares for the arrival of the baby because she knows the promise will be fulfilled—it's just a matter of time. She is expectant and she'll wait as long as it takes.

We know the word wait means "to expect" or "to look for." But remember, it also means "to serve" — just like a waiter waits on your table at a restaurant. Our act of waiting isn’t supposed to be spent sitting around passively hoping that something will happen sometime soon.

Be Eager with Faith

All of us will wait passively, or we'll wait expectantly. A passive person hopes something good will happen and is willing to sit around waiting to see if it does. After a short time, he gives up, saying, "That’s it! I've waited and waited and nothing's happened." The passive person has a lot of wishbone but not much backbone!

The expectant person, on the other hand, is hopeful, believing the answer is just around the corner, due to arrive any minute. His belief is not a passive thing. His heart is full of hope, expecting his problem to be solved at any moment. He wakes up every morning expecting to find his answer. He may wait and wait, but suddenly what he’s been waiting for happens.

Expect It to Happen

Monday, February 21, 2011

9 Days Past Ovulation

I am very optimist this week. For the first time, my temperature is at an all time high, 97.81. My temperature started going up on Saturday and has stayed up. I am feeling better, but I am still nauseas.

By the end of the week we will know if I am pregnant or not. ***For those of you who do know me, please do not announce that I am pregnant, if we receive a positive this week.*** The reason for the warning is because I am at high risk for a miscarriage. Since I am on Prometrium, Dr. Rister said that the chances of a non-viable egg attaching is high, which leads to a miscarriage later on in the pregnancy. We are praying that a viable egg attaches and we will have a healthy baby in a few months. If I am pregnant, Dr. Rister said I will need to stay on Prometrium until I am 10 weeks. At that time, we will know if we have a viable egg or not.

We are praying to God, that he will spread his promises to Israel to us.

No one shall suffer miscarriage or be barren in your land; I will fulfill the number of your days. Exodus 23:26

God has the power to open women’s wombs and to prevent miscarriages. We pray that he will provide us with the same protection. Some of the most notable men in the bible were born from barren women:  Abraham’s son Isaac (Sarah was 90 when she bore Isaac), Jacob (Rebekah), Joseph (Rachel), Samuel (Hannah), Samson (I could not find Samson’s mother’s name), and John the Baptist (Elizabeth).  I pray God blesses us in the same way and we promise to dedicate our child to God.

Friday, February 18, 2011

Defeating Infertility

I found this picture and added my own quote to it.





http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-458282/The-BIG-cat-likes-getting-wet-wild.html

The Sixth Day

The last twenty four hours have not been the best. First, I went to the doctor and found out I have a bug. The doctor gave me a z-pack and I feel better already. Then, I was an emotional wreck last night and my husband was not helping, I could not stop crying. Mark finally comforted me and made me feel better. My husband can be so sweet sometimes. Finally, at midnight our breaker box blew up. We are waiting to see if our AC needs replacing or not. Luckily, it was the breaker for the AC and septic system, and not the breaker for the whole house.

I am feeling nervous today because my temperature has steadily been declining each day. All my temperatures are above the cover line, but it makes me nervous that I am on day 6 and my temperature has not gone up any since day 3. I am on Prometrium and it should be making my temperature higher. I think this cycle is a no go, but I am still hoping I will end up pregnant.

The following picture was from our wedding day.


Thursday, February 17, 2011

Another Day in Post Ovulation

I am not feeling good today; however, it is a mixture of being sick and the medication. I will see my primary care doctor today to see what is going on with me. The sad part is I do not know what medications I can take and not take. So I am not taking medications right now to be on the safe side.

Prometrium / Clomid Side Effects

I think both medications are causing me to feel bad. I read on community boards that Clomid’s side effects can last for weeks. The following are my side effects:
  • Hot Flashes
  • Nausea
  • Irritability
  • Emotional
  • Cravings / Hunger
I am 5 dpo (days past ovulation) and I hoping these side effects will go away soon. My temperature went down today; however, it is above the cover line. Anything above the cover line is good, but I do worry when my temperature drops. I am hoping it will rise tomorrow.

I read the following from Joyce Meyer’s book “Ending Your Day Right, Devotions for Every Evening of the Year”. I felt it was so fitting for our situation.

You’re Just Passing Through

Yes, though I walk through the [deep, sunless] valley of the shadow of death, I will fear or dread no evil, for You are with me; You rod [to protect] and Your staff [to guide], they comfort me. Psalm 23:4

The psalmist David said he walked through the valley of the shadow of death. That’s what you must do in all the situations and circumstances of this life. You must remember you are just passing through.

When you feel as if you’re stuck in a situation that will never change, you must allow God to guide you through it. When the devil says, “You’re trapped,” boldly say to him, “Wrong! I’m just passing through!”

Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego were cast into the fiery furnace, but God brought them safely through the fire (see Daniel 3).

God’s Word says He will provide that same protection and deliverance to all who put their faith and trust in Him. So believe it as you walk through the valley of your own situation.

Meyer, Joyce. "You're Just Passing Through." Ending Your Day Right: Devotions for Every Evening of the Year. New York: Warner Faith, 2004. Print.

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Medication

This medication is making me crazy. I am an emotional basket case. My poor husband does not know how to deal with my roller coaster ride. Last night we got into a big fight because I was snapping at him. My husband asked the wrong thing, “What’s wrong with you?”. I think that phrase is the worst thing you can ask a hormonal woman. We worked everything out and he apologized to me. I told him I was sorry and these medications are making me crazy.

I am having a hard time dealing with my emotions and the weight gain from these pills. I did lose three pounds, which made my day. I am hoping Weight Watchers will continue to work, along with my prayers to God. Another positive is we have great friends supporting us through this journey. One friend in particular knows exactly how I feel, along with her husband. This friend and her husband are a big help in supporting my husband and I. I think it helps when guys have another guy they can relate to in difficult situations. I just wish men could feel what women were feeling.

We are 4 dpo (days past ovulation) and my temperature is still above the cover line. I am taking Prometrium twice a day, which is making me crazy. All of this is well worth it, if in the end we have our own little blessing.

Tuesday, February 15, 2011

2ww Continues

I official had a thermal shift (three high temperature days – above the cover line). My software and fertility monitor said I ovulated on Saturday.  It looks like everything is going well; except for the way I feel. I am not sure if I am getting sick or if the Prometrium is making me feel bad. I was running a low grade fever last night and I feel like I have a chest cold. I took some Tylenol last night and I feel a little better. I hope this goes away quickly.

“And He will love you and bless you and multiply you; He will also bless the fruit of your womb.” Deuteronomy 7:13

Since we have to wait, I included a picture of GiGi.  I hope you enjoy the picture of my big girl.

Monday, February 14, 2011

Two Week Wait

I am officially in the two week wait (2ww), which means we are past ovulation. This is the longest part of trying to conceive (TTC) process. I had a small thermal shift yesterday; however, I did not know how accurate my temperature was because I did not have a good night sleep.

We kept Mark’s cousin’s 4 month old Saturday night. We were up several times throughout the night (we are getting in our practice), which probably effective my temperature. I had another rise in temperature today, so I started the Prometrium. I waited on the Prometrium because it makes my temperature high and I want to ensure I had a true thermal shift first.

Friday, February 11, 2011

Peak Day!!!

I am very excited today. My fertility monitor read Peak Day this morning. Peak Day means I will ovulate within the next 12-36 hours. I am even more excited that I do not need a trigger shot, YAY!!!! I did not have a thermal shift in my temperature yet, this will occur after ovulations. Once my software register an ovulation day, I will start the dreaded two week wait to determine if we are pregnant or not.

I am going to call Dr. Rister’s office to check in today. Dr. Rister requested I keep him up to date on my progress. I need to ask him if I start taking Prometrium today or after my thermal shift.

****Update**** I spoke with Dr. Rister and told him I had a Peak Day this morning. Dr. Rister laughted and said "Just like we wanted, right?" He makes me laugh. He instructed me to start Prometrium after I have my thermal shift and I ovulated. Good news from the Doc!!

Herbs to avoid during pregnancy

I am posting two article from the American Pregnancy Association on herbs. I love herbal tea; however, after ovulations I have been very cautious about drinking herbal tea. I found these two articles put my mind at ease about what herbal teas to drink and not drink.
The following herbs are considered Likely UnSafe or Unsafe during pregnancy : 3
·         Saw Palmetto - when used orally, has hormonal activity
·         Goldenseal - when used orally, may cross the placenta
·         Dong Quai - when used orally, due to uterine stimulant and relaxant effects
·         Ephedra - when used orally
·         Yohimbe - when used orally
·         Pay D’ Arco - when used orally in large doses; contraindicated
·         Passion Flower - when used orally
·         Black Cohosh - when used orally in pregnant women who are not at term
·         Blue Cohosh - when used orally; uterine stimulant and can induce labor
·         Roman Chamomile - when used orally in medicinal amounts
·         Pennyroyal - when used orally or topically

Are there any herbs that are recommended in pregnancy?

Depending on what type of health care provider you see, he/she may recommend using herbs to help promote the health of your pregnancy. Remember, never try to self dose or diagnose with any medications, including herbs. Because each pregnancy is different, with its own specific details, the best way to use herbs is under the care of a midwife, physician, herbalist, naturopathic or homeopathic doctor.

Choosing to use herbs during pregnancy is a personal choice, but to ensure the best outcome for you and your baby, you should be well educated on the types of herbs, parts of the herb (root, leaf, etc…) and the way that they could be used (caplet, tonic, tea). The herbs that are considered safe to use during pregnancy are often food or tonic herbs. These often will be found in either tablet form, tea, or infusion form.
Herbs used in Pregnancy

The following herbs have been rated Likely Safe or Possibly Safe for use during pregnancy:4
·         Red Raspberry Leaf - Rich in iron, this herb has helped tone the uterus, increase milk production, decrease nausea, and ease labor pains. Some studies have even reported that using red raspberry leaf during pregnancy can reduce complications and the use of interventions during birth.5 You may see pregnancy teas that are made from red raspberry leaf to help promote uterine health during pregnancy. (Read about herbal teas for more information)
There is some controversy about whether this should be used throughout pregnancy or just in the second and third trimester, so many health care providers remain cautious and only recommend using it after the first trimester.
·         Peppermint Leaf - Helpful in relieving nausea/morning sickness and flatulence
·         Ginger root - Helps relieve nausea and vomiting
·         Slippery Elm Bark - (when the inner bark is used orally in amounts used in foods) Used to help relieve nausea, heartburn, and vaginal irritations
·         Oats & Oat Straw - Rich in calcium and magnesium; helps relieve anxiety, restlessness, and irritated skin

Additional herbs rated Likely Safe or Possibly Safe:
·         Blond Psyllium - when used orally and appropriately
·         Black Psyllium - when used orally with appropriate fluid intake
·         Garlic - when used orally in amounts commonly found in foods
·         Capsicum (Cayenne, hot pepper) - when used topically and appropriately

The following herbs have been rated as having Insufficient Reliable Information Available by the Natural Medicines Database, although many are recommended by homeopathic physicians, herbalists, and midwives who treat pregnant women. More extensive research and discussions with your treating health care provider will help you make the decision about what herbs are safe for you to use.
·         Dandelion - Rich in Vitamin A, calcium, and iron; dandelion root and leaf can also help relieve mild edema and nourish the liver
·         Chamomile (German) - High in calcium and magnesium; also helps with sleeplessness and inflammation of joints
·         Nettles (Stinging Nettles) - High in vitamins A, C, K , calcium, potassium, and iron. Used in many pregnancy teas because it is a great all around pregnancy tonic. Note on the safety of Nettles: Natural Medicines Database gives Nettles a rating of Likely Unsafe, even though it is used in countless pregnancy teas and recommended by most midwives and herbalists. This may be contingent upon which part of the Nettles plant is used (the root or the leaves) and how much is used. According to other sources, the use of Nettles is encouraged during pregnancy because of its health benefits.6
Other popular herbs

The following are commonly used herbs which have a safety rating of Possibly Unsafe when used orally. Again, these are herbs you would want to do more extensive research on and discuss with your health care provider before using.
·         Aloe
·         Ginseng (American & Korean)
·         Evening Primrose
·         Feverfew
·         Kava Kava
·         Senna

LIKELY SAFE:
The product has undergone a rigorous scientific evaluation equivalent to a review by the FDA, Health Canada, or other governmental authority and has been found to be safe when used appropriately. Or reputable references generally agree that the product is safe when used appropriately based on two or more randomized, controlled, clinical trials involving several hundred to several thousand patients and published in refereed journals; or based on large-scale post-marketing surveillance showing a low incidence of significant adverse effects.

POSSIBLY SAFE:
Reputable references agree that the product might be safe when used appropriately, and there are human studies reporting no serious adverse effects.

POSSIBLY UNSAFE:
There is some evidence suggesting that use of the product might be unsafe.

LIKELY UNSAFE:
Reputable references agree that the product can be harmful, based on human studies or reliable case reports of significant adverse effects.

UNSAFE:
The product has undergone a rigorous scientific evaluation or a review by a reliable regulatory agency and found to often cause clinically significant harm to humans. Or large-scale post-marketing surveillance shows a high incidence of significant adverse effects

Drinking Herbal Teas during Pregnancy

From the American Pregnancy Association

http://www.americanpregnancy.org/pregnancyhealth/herbaltea.html

Many alternative medicine health care providers feel that using certain herbal teas during pregnancy is a great way to support optimal pregnancy health. Herbal teas can often provide an additional source of nutrients such as calcium, magnesium, and iron. However, due to the lack of studies on most herbs, the FDA encourages caution when consuming herbal teas.

To understand which herbal teas are safe to consume during pregnancy, let’s first look at the different types of teas and how they are made.
Difference in Teas: Non-herbal and Herbal Teas

There are two different types of teas, non-herbal and herbal. The non-herbal teas can also be broken down into 3 categories: black, green, and oolong.
Non-Herbal Tea
·         Black tea is the most common type of non-herbal tea, including blends such as English breakfast, Earl Grey, and Orange Pekoe. 
·         Green tea has a more delicate taste than black tea; the oolong teas are a combination of green and black tea.
·         Non-herbal teas contain varying amounts of caffeine and antioxidants.
·         Non-herbal teas are made from leaves of tea plants.
·         The longer the oxidation time (fermenting) of the leaf, the higher the caffeine level. 
·         The amount of brewing time and the size and type of tea leaf can also influence how much caffeine is in the tea.
·         Decaf versions of non-herbal teas still contain a bit of caffeine.

Herbal Tea
·         Made from the roots, berries, flowers, seeds, and leaves of a variety of plants—not from actual tea plant leaves.
·         True Herbal teas do not contain caffeine ( this does not include any other drinks called "tea" that truly are not, such as mate tea.)
·         These teas can also be used as “medicinal” remedies. (relating to, or having the properties of medicine)
What teas are safe to consume during pregnancy?
Non-Herbal Teas

Although non-herbal tea is assumed to have great health benefits due to the antioxidants, it also contains caffeine, which pregnant women are often encouraged to eliminate or cut down on during pregnancy.  The average cup of non-herbal tea contains about 40-50 milligrams of caffeine. Decaffeinated non-herbal tea does still contain a bit of caffeine, however the amount is usually only about .4 milligrams.  
Caffeine does cross the placenta and reaches your developing baby, and the baby cannot metabolize caffeine like an adult can. For this reason, there is much controversy on how much caffeine is safe or if it should be avoided altogether. We know that the less caffeine consumed, the better it is for your pregnancy. Talk with your midwife or doctor about what amount you feel is safe for you. This will then help you make the decision on whether to consume non-herbal teas (green or black ).
Herbal teas

Herbal teas are naturally caffeine free, so caffeine is not an issue when consuming this type of tea. The concern with consuming herbal teas during pregnancy is the lack of data available on most herbs and their effects on a developing fetus. There are mixed opinions on the safety of herbal teas, for both pregnant and non-pregnant women.
Most commercial brands of herbal teas are thought to be safe for anyone to consume in reasonable amounts. Herbal tea companies, such as Celestial Seasonings, report that they do not use any herbs that are considered dangerous and choose to use herbs from guidelines that the FDA has published. The herbal teas that are considered to be unsafe are those that are not made commercially, those made with excessive amounts of herbs (amounts larger than those found in common foods or drinks), or those made with herbs that are known to be toxic. As with most things, it is always best to talk with your midwife or doctor about any herbal teas that you are interested in drinking.
Are the herbal teas called “Pregnancy Teas” safe to drink?
There are a number of teas labeled as “Pregnancy Teas” or herbs such as red raspberry leaf that are in teas, that are considered to be good for pregnancy. Many midwives and professionals who work with herbs believe that the regular consumption of these teas may help prevent pregnancy complications such as preeclampsia, preterm labor, prolonged labor, and postpartum hemorrhage. 
Medical studies have shown that red raspberry leaf can be consumed safely during pregnancy and can decrease the length of labor and decrease the number of interventions used such as artificial rupture of membranes (AROM), assisted delivery, and cesarean delivery.1 Red raspberry leaf also seems to help prevent pregnancies from pre-or post-term gestation (delivering too early or too late).
Herbs Used in Teas
The following are common ingredients you may find in herbal teas. Note that some have a questionable safety rating. The safety ratings given here are from the Natural Medicines Database. More extensive research and discussions with your health care provider will help you make the decision about what herbs are safe for you to use in teas.
·         Red Raspberry Leaf (Likely Safe) - Rich in iron, this herb has helped tone the uterus, increase milk production, decrease nausea, and ease labor pains.  Many of the “Pregnancy Teas” commonly contain red raspberry leaf to help promote uterine health during pregnancy.
There is some controversy about whether this should be used throughout pregnancy or just in the second and third trimester, so many health care providers remain cautious and only recommend using it after the first trimester.
·         Peppermint Leaf (Likely Safe) - Helpful in relieving nausea/morning sickness and flatulence.
·         Lemon Balm (Likely Safe) - Has a calming effect and helps relieve irritability, insomnia, and anxiety.
·         Ginger root (Possibly Safe) -Helps relieve nausea and vomiting.
·         Dandelion (Insufficient Reliable Information Available) - Rich in Vitamin A, calcium and iron; dandelion root and leaf can also help relieve mild edema and nourish the liver.
·         Chamomile (German) (Insufficient Reliable Information Available) - High in calcium and magnesium, also helps with sleeplessness and inflammation of joints.
·         Nettles (Stinging Nettles) -(Likely Unsafe-see note ) High in vitamins A, C, K, calcium, potassium and iron. Used in many “Pregnancy Teas” because it is a great all-around pregnancy tonic. (*Note on the safety of nettles: Natural Medicines Database gives nettles a rating of Likely Unsafe, even though it is used in countless pregnancy teas and recommended by most midwives and herbalists. This may be in relation to which part of the nettles plant is used, the root or the leaves, and how much is used. According to other sources, the use of nettles is encouraged during pregnancy because of all its health benefits.2)
·         Rose Hips (Insufficient Reliable Information Available) - Very good source of Vitamin C and helps boost the immune system.
·         Alfalfa (Possibly Unsafe) - Has Vitamin A, D, E and K; particularly good in later pregnancy to boost Vitamin K, which helps prevent postpartum hemorrhage.
·         Yellow Dock (Possibly Unsafe) - Used to help treat anemia in pregnant women due to the high level of iron. Also contains Vitamins A, C and calcium. *(This may also be used as a laxative--talk with your health care provider about the use of yellow dock during pregnancy).

LIKELY SAFE:
The product has undergone a rigorous scientific evaluation equivalent to a review by the FDA, Health Canada, or other governmental authority and has been found to be safe when used appropriately. Or reputable references generally agree that the product is safe when used appropriately based on two or more randomized, controlled, clinical trials involving several hundred to several thousand patients and published in refereed journals; or based on large-scale post-marketing surveillance showing a low incidence of significant adverse effects.

POSSIBLY SAFE:
Reputable references agree that the product might be safe when used appropriately, and there are human studies reporting no serious adverse effects.

POSSIBLY UNSAFE:
There is some evidence suggesting that use of the product might be unsafe.

LIKELY UNSAFE:
Reputable references agree that the product can be harmful, based on human studies or reliable case reports of significant adverse effects.

UNSAFE:
The product has undergone a rigorous scientific evaluation or a review by a reliable regulatory agency and found to often cause clinically significant harm to humans. Or large-scale post-marketing surveillance shows a high incidence of significant adverse effects